Positions and Interests

Cybersecurity can be a pretty charged subject.  We argue that a finding presents a serious risk, while the system owner and O&M team insist it's a false positive, or it's not a risk, or that it's too hard to fix.  We go around and around, and both sides become more and more convinced of thier rightness and dig their heels in deeper and deeper.  Pretty soon, we have to call management in to mediate and, as often as not, things don't go our way.

In their classic book about negotiation, Getting to Yes, Roger Fisher and William Ury underscore the difference between a position and an interest.  Our position is what we're asking for. Our interest is why we are asking for it.

In the case of our finding, our position is that the finding puts the organization at risk, while the system team argues that it doesn't. Our interest is to make the organization more secure, or to resolve an audit finding, or simply to check a box.  The system team wants to focus on functional requirements, not technical debt.  Their feelings may also be hurt because you are implying that they didn't do good work. 

When both sides take entrenched positions, someone usually has to lose in order to make any progress. This leads to bruised egos and even tougher positions next time.

It always pays to step back for a moment and ask yourself why you are taking the position you are taking.  What do you really want out of this engagement?  What does the other side want?  It's possible that your interests are aligned, or even overlap, in places.  If you can find those places, you may be able to reach a solution that meets both of your needs.  

In our example, we all want to have a secure, reliable system.  It might help to reframe the issue as a quality issue - it could cause the system to behave erratically, or it could cause an outage.  The team doesn't want extra work.  You don't want an audit finding. Is there a way we can mitigate the issue without the team having to do extra work, like putting it behind a proxy or a firewall?  By framing it as a potential quality issue, can we get the system team to do root cause analysis?  Maybe the problem is easier to fix than we thought.  

You have to get to a place where you can negotiate before you can get anything done.  This can happen a lot faster if you back away from your own position and focus on everyone's interests instead.